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An emotionally abusive person may “dismiss your feelings and needs, expect you to perform humiliating or unpleasant tasks, manipulate you into feeling guilty for trivial things, belittle your outside support system or blame you for unfortunate circumstances in his or her life. Jealousy, possessiveness and mistrust characterize an emotionally abusive person”[1]. In summary, emotional abuse includes the following:

1. Acting as if a person has no value and worth; acting in ways that communicate that the person’s thoughts feelings and beliefs are stupid, don’t matter or should be ignored.

2. Calling the person names; putting them down; mocking, ridiculing, insulting or humiliating them, especially in public.

3. Controlling through fear and intimidation; coercing and terrorizing them; forcing them to witness violence or callousness; threatening to physically harm them, others they love, their animals or possessions; stalking them; threatening abandonment.

4. Isolating them from others, especially their friends and family; physically confining them; telling them how they should think, act, dress, what decisions they can make, who they can see and what they can do (limiting their freedom); controlling their financial affairs.

5. Using that person for your own advantage or gain; exploiting their rights; enticing or forcing another to behave in illegal ways (for example, selling drugs).

6. Stonewalling and ignoring another’s attempt to relate to and interact with them; deliberately emotionally detaching from a person in order to hurt them or “teach them a lesson”; refusing to communicate affection and warmth, or to meet their emotional and psychological needs.

[1] http://www.focushelps.ca/article/addictions-abuse/verbal-and-emotional-abuse/emotional-and-verbal-abuse?gclid=CNvZx7vP6rACFWQ0QgodTEvatg

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State your name, school, and candidate number (you can have that written down)

Introduction to your IOC:

- What the work is and who the author is

- Brief description of the context of the work (I did Carol Ann Duffy, so this would be for example saying that X poem is from The World’s Wife which is seen as a feminist body of work, or for some poems mentioning that the author is bisexual, or referring to the myth/story which the poem is based on), any context which is important for understanding this particular poem

- Outline what will be explained or analysed in this commentary, referring to

- Themes

- How stylistic devices and elements of poetry were used to convey them

Make it clear what you are going to prove to the audience of your commentary. Don’t use examples or go into detail; be broad enough that you have room to work. The audience/examiner should be clear as to what your intention is for the analysis which follows (e.g. don’t give a whole analysis about gender without mentioning gender in the introduction, or don’t talk expansively about tone without outlining why you are doing so).

Body Paragraphs:

Choose one of the things you need to talk about for each paragraph. It makes sense to put the most important things first so that your commentary seems more focused and concise (and in case you run out of time). In each paragraph you’ll need to:

-State what your point is (e.g. In this poem the literary technique of listing is used to create an impression of endlessness) at the beginning of each spoken ‘paragraph’

-Give examples of where this happens in the poem. Don’t drop any quotes, say them in the context of your point. It makes sense at this point to go through examples chronologically. It isn’t necessary to give every example in the poem, just the clearest or most interesting ones.

-Explain each example, briefly. In the explanation the how and why of the point should be explained (e.g. this gives X effect by…. & this is done to/to the effect of…)

Basically PEE in each body paragraph, with multiple 'E’ examples.

Body Paragraph 1:

Ignoring what it says above, it could be a good idea to talk about the structure of the poem in the first paragraph. This gives a backbone for your analysis, and the reader of your commentary will know the layout of what you’re going deeper into.

Mention:

-if it’s a certain type of poem (sonnet, etc.) or similar to one

-how many verses, how many lines per verse, if they’re regular sizes

-how many syllables per line, if the lines are regular

-any rhythm and rhyme patterns

-progression of ideas throughout the poem

-any changes in rhythm, line length, etc. and any unexpected rhymes

Body Paragraph 2

PEE. Choose the element you see as the most important, or the one with the most presence in the poem.

Body Paragraph 3

PEE. 2nd most important.

Body Paragraph 4

PEE. 3rd most important.

Etc.

There should be at least 4-6 different paragraphs or points you make. Refer to the line and/or stanza when quoting or paraphrasing part of the poem, so the reader (or audience) of your commentary can follow your thought more easily. Use coherent, effective language which includes correct terminology- go over a list of stylistic devices in preparation, so you know your synecdoche from your simple metonymy.

Conclusion

-Reaffirm your introductory assertion (e.g. 'As I previously asserted, Carol Ann Duffy uses a specific selection of stylistic devices, including ___, ___, & ____ to convey the themes of ___ and ____ in her poem X’), and then reaffirm the points or arguments you made in the body.

-Don’t repeat yourself, but -briefly- restate or summarize the content you expressed in the commentary’s body.

-Express why what the author has done is significant or interesting. This can be in reference to the context, to the meaning of the poem, to the author’s intentions, or to the subject of the poem (just say something which sounds intelligent and insightful. A cheesy concluding sentence comes most naturally if you know you have 5 seconds before time runs out and are ready for the IOC to be over).

Extra tips: have a notecard for each poem with the main themes and stylistic devices, and its context. Get your teacher to do plenty mock IOCs with you (I did about 4 with my teacher), and if they won’t (or anyway!) practice on your own with a timer, recording your voice. :) Good luck.

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